I guess this is kind of whisky related, in as much as I was pondering these thoughts below as I took myself for a walk on New Year’s Day.
I went and sat by the river and poured a Jura 21 year old, I raised my glass to absent friends and loved ones…(you know who I mean, the people who are there for you.)
And I sat and thought about all the little moments that made me smile the last couple of years…and I reckon we should all make time to sit and reflect on the good that still exists out there.
Anyway. Earlier today I posted this elsewhere and I thought I’d share it here too (though in both cases with some slight trepidation.)
This whisky journey I’ve dipped my toes in and the people I have met, well it can be a lovely community to be a part of…and my thoughts kind of resonate with me and this small part of my life…
I’m grateful for so many things…
A bird tweeting its little heart out (whatever time of year), proves that life is good and goes on.
A stranger returning the smile you gave them, it shows that kindness prevails.
A friendly hand on your shoulder, gives reassurance to you.
A hug to know you’re cared for, missed or a welcome sight…
A message that means you’re thought of, in that one moment or throughout the day.
To be grateful for things that cost nothing and can mean so much is a beautiful thing. We can all appreciate that.
Saying thank you. Holding a door open for someone. Offering a listening ear. Opening bottles for people.. Just being there for someone.
I used to be a serial apologiser…sorry this. Sorry that. And that’s not right either. Be truly sorry if you cause hurt, as apologies should be a request for forgiveness…
I’m thankful for friendship, I’m thankful for the support I receive and the listening ears that allow me to work out the things I feel I cannot change (easily.) Or that allow me to flourish and open.
I don’t expect solutions. Just an “I hear you”, and “I’m there for you”… “can I help you?” I do the same. We are all in this together.
I’ve been knocked for my “deep thoughts” and I’ve been ignored or berated for my feelings… but if we do not think or feel, then we are not human.
Compassion. Empathy. Understanding. Love. Being caring. These are important.
We need to check how we speak to others. We need to speak kindly or just not bother. Why cause hurt? Why not spread love and good feelings?
They say sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never harm us.
Sadly it’s all too easy to allow them to….and you can go into free-fall when anger or angry words are staring you in the face or are spoken again. So you quiet yourself and you retreat to a place of hopes and dreams.
Then you start to awaken to new ideas…
You begin walking another path. Your thoughts turn to gratitude and thankfulness and appreciation. It might have started as a distraction, but it can give you so much more. You understand that you’re grateful for the bed in which you sleep as it allows you to rest. The clean water you take for granted is the water of life (and whisky) etc. etc…(as examples.) The people you hold dear and allow you to be the real you are suddenly right there in front of you.
And those that caused hurt disappear as if a figure walking into fog… they’re gone.
We all, each one of us have problems and fears.
We each have our ways of dealing with them…
We also have hopes and dreams.
Just do it with friends.